So today on twitter (follow us....@BrittnayLiebe & @Minni_Faye) I tweeted about men being sh*tty, just liars & cheaters and low down, good for nothing dogs......and what do you know this caused a riot all up and through twitter. Backlash from men (and some women) and praises and validation from most women. So this leaves me with the question, are there still good men and women left? If so, where are they?
I'm not a fan of blanket statements..."all men/women aint is" and I am a huge advocate for the good men out there, yes I do believe that somewhere hiding under some rock buried in some cave there has to be ONE good man out there.....but seeing everything that my friends and I have been through since stepping foot on the campus of the University of Cincinnati somewhere my views were altered. No I'm not perfect, but I do believe that I adhere to the expectations that I hold my significant other too, until my expectations are broken. Then is somewhat of a free for all and I find me & my S.O. going tit for tat until the entire relationship is in shambles and beyond the point of reconciliation.
I'm not saying that good men don't exist, but is it that my expectations are too high? Am I asking for too much? Do I have to settle for a man that will eventually hurt me.....and then forgive him, only to be hurt again, and again, and again? Or do I leave this man, who has marriage potential, only to heap the baggage of that relationship onto the next man?
You see, all of these issues are things that every college girl will face, and I wonder what is the male point of view....because as of lately I've been hearing a lot of cries of 'b*tches aint sh*t."
There are definitely still a lot of good women and men left in this world; however I'm a firm believer that you teach your partner how to treat you in a relationship. It is possible to teach your partner how to love you the "right" or "wrong" way (whatever that may mean to you). This is not to discount the fact that there are just a lot of shitty lovers out there in the world, meaning no morals, no real concern for their partner and his or her feelings. In general terms, your boyfriend or girlfriend will only behave like the ass that you allow them to. Most often a person will show you who he or she is in the very beginning of the relationship, it is your job to pay attention and accept them for that. What I mean by "teach" is to nip any negative or unsightly behavior you may spot early on. For example, if you notice him or her being controlling, making you stay home from a night out with the friends, ending former (and harmless) relationships with others of the opposite sex... if you oblige, you are only telling him or her that this type of controlling behavior is OKAY. So later down the road their expectations will only become greater. So when dealing with a "shitty" mate, just know that your behavior and what you accept/tolerate has just as much to do with it.
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